About Divorcery

Why this exists

From Ula Tuszewicka, co-founder

In 2009 I was not trying to build a company. I was trying to solve a problem I was having myself.

As a new mother I fell in love with babywearing, because it let me stay close to my children while still living my life. I could not find the carrier I wanted, so I designed one. That idea became Baby Tula.

What surprised me was not that parents liked the carrier. It was what happened around it. Thousands of parents found each other. They met in local groups, organized playdates, traded advice at two in the morning when the baby would not sleep. We sold carriers, but what people actually wanted was to not feel alone in something hard.

Looking back, I think that is what I have always been building. Not products. Communities.

A few years ago my own life changed in a way I never expected, and I got divorced.

Like most people, I had assumed divorce was something that happened to other families. Then suddenly I was the one trying to navigate lawyers, finances, parenting schedules, paperwork, and impossible decisions, while grieving the life I thought I was going to have.

Divorce is one of the most common things that happens to people. It is also one of the loneliest. I kept wondering where everyone else was.

There were therapists. There were books. There were support groups. There was a great deal of help available for processing how I felt.

But every morning I woke up asking something much simpler:

What do I do next?

Nobody had an answer to that one.

I wanted something to walk me through the actual process, one step at a time. Which documents to gather. Which conversations to prepare for. Which decisions mattered this week and which could wait a month. Which mistakes were expensive and avoidable.

That guide did not exist. So, the same as last time, I decided to build it.

What I was missing

From Brian Farwell, co-founder

Divorcery is the work of two people who were going through it at the same time. Ula's divorce was final less than a year before mine, and she asked me to build this with her before my own judgment came through.

For a while it felt like my world was coming down around me. I say that because people are often blindsided by how hard divorce lands, and it helps to know that being leveled by it is a normal response to a real loss, not a sign you are handling it badly.

Underneath all of it I was constantly anxious, mostly because I had no idea what my life was going to turn into. Nothing ahead of me had a shape yet, and no amount of lying awake thinking about it produced one.

What I wanted was a list. Something specific to do today that I knew was the right thing to be doing. Not busywork to pass the time, but real work that was actually moving me forward while also giving the hours somewhere to go. I think that would have steadied me more than any amount of reassurance.

The other thing was the expense. Good legal help costs real money, so I wanted to be careful about what I spent it on, and questions sat unasked while I worked out which ones were genuinely worth billable time. The trouble was that I could not sort them. Some truly needed a lawyer's judgment, and I wanted every dollar saved for those. Others I could have answered on my own, if I had known where to look or even what it was called. But telling one kind from the other took exactly the knowledge I did not have yet.

Those are the two things Divorcery is built to be. A list that always has a right next thing on it, so your days have somewhere to go and the work is genuinely getting you somewhere. And enough preparation that when you do sit down with your attorney, that hour goes to the questions only they can answer.

What we are trying to make

Divorcery is not about encouraging divorce. It is about helping people get through one with more clarity, more confidence, and more dignity than the process usually allows.

It is the practical guide we both needed and neither of us could find: the legal steps, the financial decisions, the parenting logistics, the paperwork, broken into things a person can actually do, in an order that makes sense, at whatever pace they can manage.

We also think there is something beyond the checklist. Parenthood is one of life's biggest transitions. Divorce is another. Both can be isolating, both change your sense of who you are, and both leave you looking for people who understand. What made Baby Tula matter was never really the product. It was that people found each other.

Our hope is that Divorcery becomes a trusted guide first, and in time something more than an app: a place where people going through this understand that they are not broken, they are not failing, and they are not the only one.

The two of us

We build Divorcery together as Dos Exes, LLC: a two-person company, both halves of which have been through the thing it exists for. Ula shapes what Divorcery says and how it says it. Brian shapes how it works and how it feels to use.

Where we stop

Divorcery does not replace an attorney, and it is not trying to. What it does is get you to that conversation organized, informed, and clear about what you are asking, which is usually the difference between an expensive hour and a useful one.

Some of that work you can do right now, without the app and without us: the guides explain how the process works, the questions answer specific things people get stuck on, and preparing properly for a first meeting with a lawyer is the single cheapest thing available in this whole process.

If you would like to reach us, we are at support@divorcery.com.